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For someone struggling to get pregnant, Mother’s Day and the time leading up to it, can be particularly hard and often triggering. Everywhere you look there are reminders of a special day honoring the bond of a mother and child. It can highlight loneliness, the feelings of failure, and grief that you are still waiting for your opportunity to be a mother.
These feelings are normal and valid, however, there are ways you can cope with this emotional time in a healthy way and perhaps find a way to enjoy the holiday.
Give yourself permission to feel your emotions. Your feelings are valid. Struggling to get pregnant and have a baby is difficult on its own without the bombardment of reminders leading up to Mother’s Day. It’s important to have grace with yourself and acknowledge your feelings rather than suppress them. Consider carving out some time to journal your thoughts, or speak to a trusted support person, therapist, or coach.
Practice self-care – It is so important when you are having a difficult time to find ways to find joy and take care of yourself. Identify what practices are most effective for you and make plans for the weekend. Celebrate yourself and all you are doing for your family by making it special in your own way.
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Practice Gratitude – Spend some time journaling or thinking about what you are feeling good about. It’s important to not only look at the goals ahead, but also celebrate the wins along the journey. What other aspects of your life bring you joy? Perhaps your career, your friendships, caring for a pet, or your relationship with your partner? Find a healthy way to focus on the happiness already in your life.
Volunteer – Prior to Mother’s Day weekend, look for opportunities in your community to volunteer and help others. Find a local charity that is meaningful to you and donate some time to supporting their mission. Giving back is an effective and powerful way to remind yourself of your value and ability to make a positive difference.
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Avoid Social Media – It is inevitable that your social feeds will be filled with photos and reminders of Mother’s Day over the holiday weekend. If you anticipate this being triggering or difficult for you, simply avoid your social apps. Take an Instagram detox day and focus on other activities instead. Use the opportunity to start a new book, spend time outdoors, or begin a creative activity.
Connect with others who understand – This is a good time to seek out connection with a support group, friends or loved ones who understand why the weekend may be difficult. If you are working with a therapist or coach, schedule a meeting prior to the holiday to discuss the most effective ways for you to cope in a healthy way with this challenging time.
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